SO WHERE TO FROM HERE?

“In the workplace you may be able to just not talk to someone, or you might get another job. In a friendship you might have to wean the friend off, turn them straight,” suggests Dr Bambling.
“But in a relationship, it will put it on the line. It’s far more complicated, it takes time to unravel the feelings. Communicate clearly and effectively, see how they react. The world’s out there to practice in, these relationships help us to define ourselves and work ourselves out, to ensure that you do have positive relationships. If you’re attracted to a certain type, learn to avoid it. Know it’s unhealthy.
“I’m a big believer in relying on how you feel in these kinds of situations,” he adds. “If it feels uncomfortable, trust your feelings, trust your instincts.
“That little voice in your head is there for a reason. You need to listen to it before you become too emotionally invested in anything at all.”